Happily Ever After How To's
WARNING: I am not a marriage expert. And yet, I have managed to remain married to my husband for 11 years. Me, the commitment-phobe. I did it. AND you can, too. if ya wanna
. My not-so-secret, non-expert thoughts on holy moly matrimony, in no particular order:
1. If you are sitting on a toilet, sit alone. No need to invite anyone in or talk through the door, I don't care HOW comfortable you are together. Who wants to be frisky after seeing that?!
2. If you need to blow your nose, do it in private!
3. Shoot, if you can manage it, don't let them see you hurl, either.
4. Laugh at yourself everyday, so when your loved one laughs at you, you understand why.
5. Forgive quick. Depending on the offense, "quick" could be a year or longer. But the sooner the better.
6. Never, never, NEVER name-call him. Or his family and friends--they were there first. Even if they are complete dumb asses! Besides, he knows they are, and folks like that make one look good without even trying!
7. When he leaves shirts and socks all over the place, no where near the dirty clothes hamper, let it go. Be thankful he doesn't get mad when a little red lace thing of yours static-clings to his pant leg--and he goes to work that way.
8. If he wants to tell you a story you have heard 1000 times, let him. Its important to him.
9. If she crys over a sappy commercial, be thankful she is so tender and compassionate. If she snorts while trying to hide her weakness, muffle your chuckle.
10. Resist the urge to nag. Unless you too can handle it and remain productive, after being nagged!
11. Say "thank you", "please", and "you're welcome", for ALL things given.
12. Ask for help, please. Don't give orders.
13. Don't brush your teeth or use q-tips in front of each other either. And ladies, "hide" things in the trash..if ya knowwhatimean.
14. When your darling goes grocery shopping and manages to buy two cart loads full, be thankful she is trying to feed you; understanding she knows she spent too much and her heart was in the right place. And besides I was, uh, "she" was a newlywed.
15. Notice haircuts and new clothes with a compliment. 'White lie' without twitching, K? Or else your cover may be blown. Okay, that can't be right. Don't lie! Or be brutally honest.
16. Never let 'em see you drool over someone else's looks. The closer in proximity you are to the hottie, the more this rule applies!
17. Don't ask your sweetie if you look fat, or how much you've changed. Save those questions for your friends.
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18. Look each other in the eye when speaking. Throw in a wink now and then.
19. Acknowledge each other's dedication to each other, to the career, to the family.
20. Reminisce about how you met, not just on your Anniversary.
21. When times are difficult, have faith they will improve and take action.
22. Kiss hello and good-bye, EVERY time.
23. Say "I love you" EVERYDAY, with sincerity.
So, my lovelies, tell your friends to take the "how long are they gonna last" wager off the table, and just love. Love your commitment to each other. You picked one another for a reason, so spend your life together remembering exactly why.
Please feel free to add a few of your "secrets" by leaving a comment. Please note, I never said "obey"! lol
I'd like to say number 24: Wife is always right. Regrettably, I report that is not true. WOW--what a rude awakening THAT was..haha
Melinda
p.s. besides, Mommies, you KNOW bathroom time is the only time we get to ourselves anyway! (No wonder bathroom designs are getting bigger and bigger..its the only place we can take a nap!!)
p.s.s. #6....I wasn't talking about you!! :o)
Us on our 11th Anniversary:
commitment phobe and commitment phobe fall in love...who woulda thunk?
Posted by Mama Bear at 8/26/2009 3:38 PM 
Categories: Marriage
Tags: long term relationships how to love marriage help avoiding divorce lasting marriage marriage advice
Categories: Marriage
Tags: long term relationships how to love marriage help avoiding divorce lasting marriage marriage advice
Awesome!
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